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21 September 2009

Age Appropriate

11:47 AM Posted by steve flores 1 comment
I attended a funeral and saw a little girl who I haven’t seen in sometime. This girl is now 6 years old, but I have this image stuck in mind of her being much younger…probably 3 years old or something. Anyway, as I was walking through to share condolences with the family, I saw this little girl. Her mom got up, gave me a hug and so did her little girl. It was at that moment I said, “Wow. She’s getting so big!”

After talking for awhile, I said goodbye and started walking to my car. As I was walked to my car, I had this funny thought, “At what age is that comment no longer appropriate?” My comment didn’t create controversy. As a matter of fact, it opened up communication for how fast kids grow and how my little girl will grow up in a flash. But, when does, “She’s getting so big,” become offensive?

In college, a few of my friends and I had a scripture, we’d blurt out when we said something we shouldn’t – Ephesians 4:29, “Watch the way you talk. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. Say only what helps, each word a gift.” I want my words to be a gift. And although I pose this question lightheartedly, for the mere humor of the moment, I want my words to be gifts.

Give gifts worth opening, not wanting to be returned.