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22 September 2010


3:51 PM Posted by steve flores 1 comment
I’ve been reading, “Council of Dads,” by Bruce Feiler for a few months now and I’m nearing the end of the book (lacking two chapters). It’s not an evangelical book, so there are some choice words in there, but it has made an indelible impact. Here’s a quick synopsis: Bruce has been diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. He has twin three year old girls and a wife. He decided to form a council of dads to help raise his girls, be his voice, and continue his influence in the event of his death. The book tells of this journey and it’s gripping.

A conversation he had with his doctor challenged me deeply – very invasive. Here’s the conversation:

Bruce: It is fifteen years from now and one of my daughters comes to you and asks, ‘Why did my daddy die?’ What would you tell her?

Dr. Healey: I would say that there is no simple answer to that. On one hand, everybody dies. Many people actually never live, and your daddy lived. It was just not as long as any of us would have liked. But he lived well, and he provided a great example for you. And as sad as it is that he’s not here, you can take solace in knowing how much he loved you and how hard he fought to be here for you.

What a legacy. What a testament of love, not just expressed, but experienced. Am I living well? Am I fighting hard to live, although facing no illness, communicating how deeply important people are around me? If not, I have no excuse.