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28 June 2011

Inconsideration (pet-peeve) – pt. 2

11:00 AM Posted by steve flores , , No comments
“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
-Matthew 7:12

I thought of these series of blog posts, after a recent event.  I jotted down a few inconsiderations (my new word) and wondered if others have experienced my same feelings.  Part one, I shared six inconsiderations (it’ll catch on), but I discovered (I believe the Lord revealed to me—not really) more once I began listing.  As I mentioned in the previous blog post, I don’t have many pet-peeves—that I’m aware of, only one, inconsideration.  I am a nothing-really-bothers-me type of guy, except for when it comes to inconsideration.  It cuts deep into my heart and frustrates me to the point of having to “pray through”. 

My definition of inconsideration, lacking the awareness of or failing to acknowledge that other people exist in the world other than one’s self.

Employees, in customer service, working behind a counter, asking a customer, who walks up to the counter, to wait while they wrap up a conversation with another employee about what they did last night.
Do you remember the early days of the cordless phone technology?  At times, when I picked up the phone to make a call, I was surprised to hear another conversation from someone who knows where.  It was odd and completely random, especially during the early days of the call-waiting technology, too.  As a kid, I lived for those days.  Now, as an adult, I don’t have the same perspective.  There is nothing more awkward than to be subjected to another person’s escapades, because they didn’t ask me if I wanted to know, they just spilled.  Depending on the subject matter, I don’t know if I’m to respond, console, rejoice, call for help, encourage, empathize, sympathize, or just ignore it like it didn’t hear anything.  Clearly, I heard it all.  What makes matters worse, the jovial, out-going conversation with their friend ceases and then the employee shifts attention to me unenthusiastically, somewhat bothered, and in a monotone voice asks, “Can I help you?”  It’s not professional.  It’s not customer friendly.  It’s not appreciated.  And, in any area dealing with customer service, it’s not thinking of the customer first.  Stop it.

In a car, deciding to have a conversation with a person who is not in a car.
If I had a ranking, this one would be ranked pretty high on my inconsideration list.  I’m driving down the road, or in a parking lot, when all of a sudden the person in the car in front of me recognizes someone they know and decides to catch up on life, right here, right now.  I come to a complete stop and now trapped by a conversation.  I could honk, but for some reason that feels more inconsiderate than the current conversation that, apparently, was so urgent it must happen, now.  I could also go around, but in a parking lot, I don’t usually have that option.  I’m a hostage in my own vehicle.  I’ve got a tip: Wave.  Drive off into a parking stall or pull-over to the side of the road and call the person.  I have a feeling the conversation wasn’t a traffic-stopper.

Having more than 20 items in a shopping cart, at the 15 item or less line.
I’m curious, what sense of denial leads a person to look into their basket and decide, “I’ve been in the grocery store for well over an hour, but there is NO WAY I have more than what would disqualify me for the express lane!”  I wish we were empowered to count the items in people’s shopping carts and call them out.  It doesn’t have to be a big showcase, just a subtle approach.  I’m thinking, an air-horn (for initial shock), a bullhorn (for an announcement), and a simple to-the-point announcement from the bullhorn, “May I have your attention, please?  This person has exceeded the limit of items for the express lane.”  I think the embarrassment might prevent further infractions.  Actually, a better idea would be for the registers to total after a 15 item order.  It seems practical to me.

Walking in the middle of the lane of a parking lot. 
I would never do this, but I have considered it.  When I see a person taking his/her sweet time walking in the middle of a lane of a parking lot, I want to sneak up behind him, in my car, and bump him.  This is another one of those things I don’t understand.  I understand there are circumstances when crossing the lane is inevitable, but a true sign of inconsideration is not in crossing the lane, expediently, but in walking in the lane, leisurely.  I’ve been caught walking in the cross-hairs of the lane and a car and in that moment, I acknowledged the car, mouthed, “I’m sorry,” walked briskly out of the way, and gave one last wave for good measure, while mouthing, “thank you.”  “Thank you,” for allowing me to pass.  “Thank you,” for not running me over.  “Thank you,” for not blowing your horn, causing me to possibly soil my pants.  My easy fix for this kind of inconsideration: walk along the parking stalls, until you need to cross over.  Or follow my approach a few lines above – it seems considerate.

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