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19 July 2011

EXPERIENCES Affect Identity – pt.2

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores No comments
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Before David was anointed king, even before he defeated Goliath—which made him a hero—he was a little runt whose father didn’t believe in.  Some of you might feel that way, too.  You may feel like no one cares about you or notices your potential, not even your family.  It’s ongoing, it’s real, and it’s your life, but it doesn’t have to shape your identity in a negative way.  Here’s what David experienced, “And Jesse said to David, his son, ‘Take for your brothers an ephah of this parched grain, and these ten loaves, and carry them quickly to the camp to your brothers. Also take these ten cheeses to the commander of their thousand.  See if your brothers are well, and bring some token from them.’” (1 Samuel 17:17-18 - ESV)

David, the newly anointed king of Israel, was given an assignment: Take a sack lunch to your older brothers.  Little did David know this experience would set the stage for him to meet his destiny and identify him as a hero—from carrier to conqueror!  Seemingly, insignificant or hurtful experiences now may have incredible and profound significance in the future.  It may not seem like it, but insignificant or hurtful experiences can affect your identity in a positive way and introduce you to your destiny.  Each one can prepare you for a future that you cannot see.  I’m not saying God caused them, but God can definitely use them—mundane assignments, tedious busywork, volunteering, interning, being silent when angry, speaking up where there is injustice, writing in a dream journal, continuing to pray despite the lack of answers, loss, illness, hardship, adversity, etc.

In Mark Batterson’s book Soul Print, he wrote, “Alfred Adler believed that perceived disadvantages [like being tasked with delivering a lunch or hurtful experiences] often prove to be disguised advantages because they force us to develop attitudes and abilities that would have otherwise gone undiscovered.  Adler concluded that perceived disadvantages can be springboards to success.  And that success is not achieved in spite of those perceived disadvantages.  It’s achieved because of them.”

How can what you are going through now, or what you have gone through then, be a positive for your identity?  Can your story, eventually, inspire others?  It may be time to see a different perspective.