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08 July 2011

FAMILY affects Identity – Part 3

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores No comments
[Part One], [Part Two]

Jesse and Samuel focused on the outside, because one by one, seven of Jesse’s sons passed in front of Samuel.  Jesse probably thought, “These are great looking boys!  I’m sure one of these will be the next king!”  And, I bet Samuel got tired of saying, “No.”  Here’s what happened, 1 Samuel 16: 10-12,
In the same way all seven of Jesse’s sons were presented to Samuel. But Samuel said to Jesse, “The Lord has not chosen any of these.  Are these all the sons you have?”  Jesse replied, “There is still the youngest, but he’s out in the fields watching the sheep and goats.”
“Send for him at once,” Samuel said. “We will not sit down to eat until he arrives.” So Jesse sent for him. He was dark and handsome, with beautiful eyes.  And the Lord said, “This is the one; anoint him.”

David was never invited to the service, because his father never thought he would be considered, never saw his potential, or thought much of him.  That had to hurt.  Imagine, all of your brothers and sisters going to a very special service, but your dad says, “Okay, you stay here.”  I wonder if David was used to that, talked down to, never felt good enough, and felt like the underdog often.  Family dynamics play an important role in identity—Family can affect your identity in a positive or negative way.

We come from different backgrounds.  Some might feel like David – looked over or passed up because your brother or your sister got all the attention.  Some might feel like the seven brothers who got the attention and the approval from other people—you might feel a little more confident.  Whatever your family background, whether you are being told you have purpose and a destiny or your being made to feel like you don’t have purpose and a destiny, God ultimately shapes your identity.  And that’s powerful!  Whatever your family background, God ultimately shapes your identity.

In the mind of David’s father and brothers, he would be nothing more than a shepherd.  God impressed Samuel to ask Jesse if he had another son, because, to God, David was more than a shepherd.  God saw the value in David.  As soon as David walked onto the scene, God said, “Now, this is the king.  That’s him!”  God saw what David’s own family never saw.  God saw David’s true identity.  And, God sees your true identity when no one else does, even when you don't see it.