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09 July 2011

FAMILY affects Identity – Part 4

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores No comments
You might think David would get special treatment after being told he would be the next king, at least talked to differently, but he didn’t.  David went back to the fields and continued to be a punching bag for his older brothers.  In fact, they were still picking on him when he visited them in the Valley of Elah.  And this is where David’s life changed, forever.

What happened next in David’s life is a story we all know, David and Goliath.  David wasn’t supposed to be at this battle, so it is a miracle he was there.  The only reason David was there was because his dad called in pizza for his sons.  David was the pizza delivery guy…well, something like that. 1 Samuel 17: 17-18, “And Jesse said to David his son, “Take for your brothers an ephah of this parched grain, and these ten loaves, and carry them quickly to the camp to your brothers.  Also take these ten cheeses to the commander of their thousand.  See if your brothers are well, and bring some token from them.”

David, the newly anointed king of Israel, is a pizza delivery guy.  Sweet!  I don’t know what David thought when he learned of his assignment or while he walked to where his brothers were, but I bet he was frustrated.  “Why am I bringing lunch?! Didn’t dad hear and see that God anointed me to be king!  I’m sure there is more to life than this!”  There is no way David would have known that God could use something as insignificant as a lunch delivery to place him on the biggest battlefield of his life.  It was this moment that got the ball rolling to David’s future as king.  Here’s the lesson: What you view as negative or insignificant, could shape your identity in a positive way.

There may be significant negatives in your life, but it’s possible those negatives can shape your identity in a positive way, especially as it concerns your family.  As a kid, I wished that my family was richer, that we lived in a bigger house, that we drove nicer cars, and that we had the newest stuff.  I used to see those as negatives.  What I once saw as negatives, I now see as positives.  Today, I have an appreciation for the things I have and don’t feel I need specific things to boost my ego or status level.  I may not have the most expensive clothing, newest hottest car, but I realize stuff doesn’t define me anyway.  My parents were generous with the things they did possess, love, and that defined them.  It defined me.

Forget stuff.  What about words?  I was bullied as a kid. I was picked on, beat up.  Those negative experiences then now help me to understand people who feel the way I did.  What I viewed as negatives has positively shaped my identity.  And the same goes for you.  Even negative experiences may have a positive effect on your identity.  Shift your perspective.  David had a stack of negatives piled by his family.  It’s sad that the place that was supposed to provide support actually provided the least of it.