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16 August 2011

WORDS Affect Identity – pt. 6

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores No comments
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Over the years, I’ve watched students try to gain self-worth from other friends.  Students hang onto and long for the words from others to help them feel significant.  If this person doesn’t like them, then they change.  If that person doesn’t like them, then they change, again.  Over time, they forget who they are.  Like a woman who dyes her hair color for years and doesn’t remember what her natural color is anymore, students have changed so many times attempting to gain worth from friends, they don’t know who they are.  In the process, they end up lost and wonder, “Who am I?”  Adults are no different.

It is a tragedy when we get scarred from mistakes, because we tried to gain self-worth from others.  It is ironic, too.  We wanted someone to accept us and make us feel alive, but when it all comes crashing down, we feel worse about ourselves.  And if this describes you, you might have given up way more than you ever wanted to or even imagined you would.  You relied on another person’s words to shape your identity in a positive way, but it hasn’t worked.  Now, you’re more guarded and less trusting.  David’s identity wasn’t defined by what others said about him, if it had been, David would have left as soon as his brother embarrassed him.  Our identity needs to be found in the pages of the Bible, from God’s words—from what God says about you.  People will never be satisfied with you.  Like David, we need to gain a healthy self-worth from God. 

Continuing the story, King Saul gave David the go ahead to fight Goliath.  I believe David was afraid and nervous, yet excited!  What he thought was an insignificant task of bringing food to his brothers, led him to the biggest battle of his life.  Literally, David was either going to die or live.  If David died, it wasn’t because of the negative words from the people who didn’t believe in him.  Actually, David was prepared to give his life for the only one who did believe in him, God.  Many of us die to the uniqueness God created way before our last breath escapes us.  It happens when we make the acceptance of others priority. 

When King Saul suggested David to wear his armor, David took it off and decided to face Goliath with a stick and a slingshot.  It must have seemed like David had a death wish.  I wonder if David heard the words of God, those same words spoken to him while with sheep, and they gave him confidence, “I believe in you, David.”  I wonder if that’s when David decided to please God with the uniqueness of who he is, rather than fight a battle pretending to be someone he is not. 

King Saul didn’t believe in David, remember?  You are not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him, for you are but a youth, and he has been a man of war from his youth.”  Why would David want his protection?  David relied on God’s protection—the only one who saw value in him when no one else did.  David’s confidence, his identity, was secure in God.  And with that confidence, David stepped out to meet Goliath.  1 Samuel 17:42-44, And when the Philistine looked and saw David, he disdained him, for he was but a youth, ruddy and handsome in appearance. And the Philistine said to David, “Am I a dog that you come to me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods.  The Philistine said to David, “Come to me, and I will give your flesh to the birds of the air and to the beasts of the field.”