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08 March 2012

Conflict – pt.4

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores , No comments
"If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.” (Matthew 18:15, NLT)

“If the other person listens and confesses it…”
“If” means, it may not go the way you think it should. It might not always work. But, in the middle of the sentence, I think we get a sense of what Jesus would like for us to focus on. A desired response from the person you have a conflict with is the willingness to listen. Wouldn’t that be amazing? When you (or I) approach the person we have a conflict with, rather than get a blank stare or the cold shoulder, the person actually listens! I call that progress. 

Worth considering is our approach in handling conflict. Do you tear into the other person? Do we begin and continue our conversations with blame? You cannot tear into a person and expect them to listen. The moment anyone feels attacked, they go into defense mode. You do it, too. Your automatic response when you are attacked is to defend yourself. If the other person feels the need to defend early, most times they stop listening. 

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