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09 March 2012

Conflict – pt.5

12:01 AM Posted by steve flores , No comments
"If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back.” (Matthew 18:15, NLT)

“…you have won that person back.”
At the end of Jesus’ sentence, I believe we discover the goal of handling conflict: resolution. The goal is not to win an argument, but to regain a relationship. When we operate with the goal to win the argument and not regain the relationship, I believe we are missing the mark. The goal should be to repair the relationship. When we point out all the wrong the other person has committed, we place our feelings above the relationship. It is important to understand this: they may not be the only one wrong. You may be misunderstanding, misinterpreting, and misinformed.

Jesus continues with more instruction, Matthew 18:16-17. The words seem harsh, but when you have read the character of Jesus, they are actually more redemptive and restorative than you think.

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